A New Look at Mentoring
Adult-to-youth mentoring isn’t a new idea, but the manner in how it takes place is seeing new methods. The one-to-one mentoring model, considered high commitment – high reward, is still very effective. Group mentoring however, a low commitment – high reward method, is gaining popularity, with male mentors, in particular.
Continue reading to learn more about the importance of mentoring, trends, the shortage of male mentors and the ways you can get involved with TrueMentors.
The Importance of Youth Mentoring
In a ground-breaking, 30-year study, Big Brother Big Sisters of America (BBBSA) recently released some startling data. This study detailed the life-long impacts of mentorship during childhood and adolescence. The study showed an impressive effect on young people’s trajectories.
Three of the most impactful outcomes reported in this study are as follows;
- Youth matched with a mentor increased earnings in adulthood and were more likely to experience social mobility. Mentored youth experienced a 15% increase in earnings between ages 20 and 25, and were calculated to earn $56,000 more by age 65 than non-mentored youth.
- Mentored youth were more likely to attend college. Youth in this group were 10 percentage points more likely to enroll in college than non-mentored youth.
- Mentoring has a very strong return on investment. The cost per mentor-mentee match is relatively low, ranging from $2,000 to $3,000 per year. Since mentored youth are calculated to earn significantly more over their lifetimes, this results in an estimated $7,000 more in tax revenue for the government per individual. Accordingly, the government’s financial gain is two to three times greater than the cost of programming, essentially making mentoring programs self-sustaining.
This study showed mentorship has a lasting, positive effect on young people’s futures, including educationally, socially and economically. It is also, dollar for dollar, one of the most cost-effective ways to do so.
Mentoring at TrueNorth
TrueNorth has been offering adult to youth mentoring since 1976. That’s 50 years of local adults coming alongside local youth offering friendship, guidance and direction. While TrueNorth may lack the funding and infrastructure to conduct a large-scale study on the impacts of mentoring, the agency does have half a century’s worth of anecdotal stories.
“The best thing about having a mentor is… when I don’t have a role model in my family, I can always go to her, because she’s a good role model and she’s always there for me.”
– Riley
“We both like fishing and going out. It’s fun (having a mentor),and you get to go outside and do things you don’t normally do with your mom or your parents.”
– Anthony
The Good News
According to a study from MENTOR, cited by The Chronicle of Evidence-Based Mentoring, today’s youth are more likely to have a mentor. Fifty-six percent of all adults say they had a mentor, compared with 66% of those under 40. The trend is primarily thanks to an increase in programs that facilitate formal mentoring relationships – ones like TrueNorth’s TrueMentors program.
Youth.gov reports the benefits of mentoring for youth include:
- Increased high school graduation rates
- Lower high school dropout rates
- Healthier relationships and lifestyle choices
- Better attitude about school
- Higher college enrollment rates and higher educational aspirations
- Enhanced self-esteem and self-confidence
- Improved behavior, both at home and at school
- Stronger relationships with parents, teachers and peers
- Improved interpersonal skills
- Decreased likelihood of initiating drug and alcohol use
According to MENTOR:

The Bad News
In the same study from MENTOR, we learn the trend of increased mentorship appears to have stalled in recent years. This reveals yet another impact of the COVID-19 pandemic and other societal shifts on today’s young adults. Among Gen Z, particularly its youngest members (those ages 18-21), the presence of mentors appears to have declined.
Men seem to be less inclined to sign up to be a mentor. There are a number of possible reasons for this, which we’ll dive into.
The Male Gap
There is a clear, statistically-backed shortage of male volunteers and mentors in the United States. This creates a severe bottleneck for boys who need guidance. According to a study by the American Institute for Men and Boys:
- More than 70% of children currently on the Big Brothers Big Sisters waitlist are boys, primarily due to a severe lack of male mentors (“Big Brothers”).
- Men with a bachelor’s degree volunteer at more than double the rate of men without one (42% vs. 19%).
- Men who are fathers are notably more likely to volunteer (33%) than men without children (24%).
- Men consistently volunteer less than women. In 2023, 27% of men volunteered compared to 32% of women.

TrueNorth’s mentoring program, TrueMentors, sees very similar percentages of male waitlist kids versus females. This mirrors the national averages detailed above.
In a 2024 TED Talk by writer and social scientist, Richard Reeves we learn the lack of male role models extends into professional institutions as well. The share of K-12 teachers who are male has fallen from 33% in the 1980s to just 23% today. Similarly, men only make up about 22% of the workforce in “HEAL” professions (Health, Education, Administration, and Literacy).
One of the reasons the gap in male mentors is so troubling is explained in staggering terms by NYU Professor and Podcast Host, Scott Gallway. In this video, he states the “single point of failure for a young man coming off the tracks is when he loses a male role model.”
Galway further emphasizes this point in his book, “Notes on Being a Man” where he highlights; “a ‘five-alarm fire’ for young men, often caused by a lack of positive male role models, which dramatically increases the risk of incarceration over college graduation.”
Why Are Men Hesitating?
Understanding why men aren’t signing up is crucial to finding ways to close that gap. Traditional mentoring models often ask men to sell their “emotional availability”. This is a resource many modern men feel they are low on. Instead, men are much more eager to provide their competence and physical presence.
Additionally, men often struggle with the indefinite, open-ended timelines of traditional mentoring, or the pressure to be a mentor forever. Lastly, a commonly-cited barrier to male volunteering is an incredibly simple one: no one asked them.
New Trends
To get men on board, successful programs are redesigning their mentoring models. The core thesis driving this shift is that men engage shoulder-to-shoulder, not face-to-face. This means they bond better through construction rather than conversation.
Organizations are moving away from positioning mentors as “therapists”. Instead, they frame the mentor as an “expert” who can immediately deploy and/or teach a tangible skill. Things like basic carpentry, changing oil or wiring a lamp. This frees men from thinking a long-term emotional contract is needed upfront.
To combat the fear of indefinite commitment, programs are utilizing a Task Force model. This is a 6-to-8 week cohort where a group of mentors and youth form a unit (e.g., 3 men + 10 youth) to complete a specific mission. These could be things like clearing a trail or building raised garden beds. In this model, mentoring happens organically within the context of the work.
Programs are also leaning into the Expedition model, which involves challenging outdoor activities like winter camping or kayaking. This gets disengaged men off the couch, validates their physicality and feels like an adventure, rather than a formal meeting.
Group Mentoring
TrueNorth’s internal exploration of Group Mentoring was originally sparked by the specific challenge of recruiting male volunteers, in general. The research quickly revealed this isn’t just a patch for a shortage; it is in fact, a superior relational model. What began as a way to lower the barrier of entry for men, has evolved into a strategy benefitting all mentors and mentees, regardless of gender.
Group mentoring serves as a low-pressure “on-ramp” for men who may feel intimidated by the intensity of one-to-one roles. However, once that infrastructure is built, it creates a richer, more diverse environment for co-ed participation. Men often respond better to a team dynamic. By leaning into that, we aren’t excluding women; we are creating a community-style mentoring environment that is naturally co-ed, which reflects real-world social dynamics.
Adding group mentoring to the toolkit doesn’t take away from one-to-one matches. It expands the menu of how people can serve. The goal is a both/and ecosystem, not an either/or mandate.
A Fun Way to Get Involved
One of the easiest and most-fun ways to support TrueNorth’s mentoring programs is by getting involved in Bowlapalooza 2026. This is TrueNorth’s annual bowling fundraiser. Community members are encouraged to form teams and raise pledges to support mentoring in Newaygo County.
This year’s event takes place at Fremont Lanes on April 16th from 5:30 – 7:30 pm, and April 17th from 5:30 – 7:30 pm or 8:00 – 10:00 pm. Individuals who raise $40 or more will receive two games of bowling with shoe rental, a Bowlapalooza t-shirt and a door prize entry on their designated bowling night. The top adult fundraiser (age 18 and older) will receive the event’s grand prize. Click here to learn more.
To learn more about TrueMentors’ programming or about mentoring visit: www.truenorthservices.org/true-mentors.






